Season 1

When Everything You Built Starts to Unravel

What happens when your marriage, identity, and faith all fall apart at the same time?
This is a conversation about navigating the messy middle of major life changes when everything unravels at once. About the transition anxiety of watching your entire foundation crack and not knowing what's left. For anyone whose life transitions aren't happening one at a time—they're colliding.
Therapist and educator Janice Holland—The Trauma Teacher—joins Nikki P to share her story of when marriage crisis, identity shift, and faith transition hit simultaneously. You'll hear about the both/and of grief and relief when everything breaks, how faith transition complicates marriage crisis, and why starting over feels impossible when you don't recognize yourself anymore.
This is about emotional regulation when the chaos is overwhelming, boundaries you didn't know you needed, and learning that unraveling isn't the end—it's the beginning.
In this episode:
- When marriage, identity, and faith transition collide
- The anxiety of everything falling apart at once
- Grief for the life you thought you'd have
- Navigating major life changes simultaneously
- Starting over when you don't know who you are
- Emotional regulation in the chaos
- Boundaries during crisis
- Why unraveling is terrifying AND necessary
If you're experiencing a relationship change, faith deconstruction, or any major life transition, this episode offers language, validation, and grounded reflection—without toxic positivity.
Because life isn't either/or—it's both.
Resources & Links:- Get Connected with Janice Holland, The Trauma Teacher
- Subscribe, rate, & review It's Both on Apple Podcasts
- Join the Courageous Living Group Transformation
- Sign up for Hungryroot and get $50 off your first box
- It's Both on Instagram & Youtube

When You're Managing Everything AND Overthinking It All

What if the invisible labor isn't just exhausting—it's making you spiral?
This is a conversation about navigating the messy middle of the mental load, overthinking, and the anxiety of major life changes in how you parent. About managing everything while your brain won't stop running through lists. That transition anxiety between the parent you thought you'd be and the one drowning in invisible labor. For anyone carrying the mental load and wondering why they can't turn their brain off.
Nikki P sits down with Hannah and Amy from Elevate Consulting to unpack the both/and of loving your family AND resenting the labor, how overthinking multiplies when you're the only one tracking everything, and what emotional regulation looks like when you're touched out and thought out. This is about boundaries, asking for help, and identity beyond motherhood.
In this episode:
- The anxiety and overthinking of carrying the mental load
- Why managing everything makes your brain spiral
- Navigating major life changes in parenting approach
- Boundaries around invisible labor
- Emotional regulation when you're overwhelmed
- Mixed emotions: love and resentment
- Asking for help without guilt
- Identity beyond motherhood
Get Connected & Support the Show:
- Listen to the companion podcast: It's Both- Guided Meditations for Anxiety, Emotional Regulation, & Real Life Transitions
- Learn more about Elevate Consulting
- Subscribe, rate, & review It's Both on Apple Podcasts
- Sign up for Hungryroot and get $50 off your first box
- Join the Courageous Living Group Transformation
- It's Both on Instagram & Youtube

Coming Soon - It’s Both: A podcast about learning to hold multiple truths

Have you ever felt torn between joy and sorrow, success and failure, or love and loss? Life is a beautiful contradiction, and in this season of "It's Both," host Nikki P. takes you on an enlightening journey that dives deep into the complexities of life's contradictions through authentic storytelling. Nikki emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and embracing the multifaceted nature of human experiences, illustrating how we can hold conflicting emotions and truths simultaneously. This episode is a heartfelt invitation for listeners to explore the gray areas of life, where joy and pain coexist, and where our stories intertwine in unexpected ways. As Nikki guides you through real-life narratives, she encourages a shift away from binary thinking, advocating for a deeper understanding of our realities. The discussions revolve around the idea that life is not simply black and white but rather a rich tapestry of experiences that can be both challenging and beautiful. By sharing relatable stories, Nikki aims to foster healing and connection, reminding us that it is entirely possible to feel multiple emotions at once. Whether you’re grappling with personal challenges, navigating relationships, or simply seeking a more profound understanding of your own experiences, this episode of "It's Both" offers valuable insights that resonate on many levels. Through the lens of authentic storytelling, Nikki explores how we can embrace our contradictions and learn from them. She highlights the power of vulnerability and the strength that comes from sharing our truths. By doing so, she paves the way for a more inclusive conversation about the human experience, one that acknowledges the beauty in our struggles and the lessons learned along the way. Join Nikki as she unpacks the complexities of life, encouraging you to reflect on your own journey and find solace in the shared nature of our experiences. Don't miss this opportunity to engage with a community that values authenticity and real connection. Tune in to "It's Both" and discover how embracing the contradictions in your life can lead to greater understanding, acceptance, and ultimately, healing. Let’s celebrate the beauty of life's complexities together and learn how to navigate the intricate dance of emotions that shape our existence. Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.